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In this video, I’m going to teach you how to prevent separation or divorce and save your marriage. This is obviously going to be a huge topic and I’m going to cover as much as I can in this video. So sit tight and be sure to watch this entire clip, because I’m going to teach you things that most couples will never know about building a loving marriage.
"CAN YOUR MARRIAGE BE SAVED?"
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This video is for people whose husband or wife announced that they’re no longer happy in their marriage. You may have heard painful things like, “I’m just not happy anymore”, “I don’t love you”, or “I’m leaving you.” Or, maybe they’ve already left you. No matter the case, I know how extremely difficult, stressful, and heartbreaking this situation is… and I know how hopeless you might feel at this very moment. So I’m going to start off this long video by telling you that there IS light at the end of this long tunnel. With the proper guidance, help, and attitude, it is possible to turn your marriage around despite how adamant your spouse may be on divorce. I know this because I’ve seen thousands of so called “hopeless” couples turn it around – and I know exactly how they did it.
With that being said, rebuilding a broken marriage is a rocky road. Sometimes, things can get a little worse before they get better, and it takes a lot of devotion on your part to make things better. However, I promise you that if you watch this whole video and follow my advice very closely, you’ll have the best chance possible of rebuilding that marriage you and your spouse deserve.
But before I get into what TO do to save your marriage, I first need to tell you about what NOT to do. The vast majority of married couples that I coach commit almost all of these very damaging mistakes. And I know that some of you might be in a situation where your spouse isn’t willing to work on the marriage, but in a minute, I’ll tell you why that’s okay, and why it’s even more important for you to learn these common mistakes before you go down the road of rebuilding a newer, happier marriage.
Some of this stuff you may already know, but it’s important to remember these mistakes before you cause any further damage to your marriage – and these are tips that will have an immediate impact on your relationship.
I like to call these mistakes my “Big Marital Mistakes”.
Big Marital Mistakes #1 – Initiating needless conflict with your spouse. When you’re trying to fix a broken marriage and you’re feeling desperate, chances are things can spiral out of control very easily… (and I think you know what I’m talking about). You think that if you could just talk to your spouse about all your problems and find common ground, your marriage will magically fix itself and get better. But usually, this isn’t the case.
While communicating with your spouse is important in rebuilding a marriage, what your marriage does NOT need right now is another argument or fight. Even if your partner says something antagonizing or wants to bring up a touchy sticky issue at the moment, do your best to avoid conflict politely. Don’t ignore your spouse or discount any of their concerns, but you need to ensure that the discussion doesn’t end up in a screaming match. You can say something along the lines of, “I know this is a real concern right now and I want to resolve this issue, but can we discuss this later?”
Try and be as non-confrontational as possible – at least for now – until you learn how you can manage how to handle your arguments later. I’ll get to what I call my “Dispute Defusing System” later in this video. If you have any questions or concerns about this common mistake, please be sure to ask questions in the comments section below. I’ll do my very best to get back to you as soon as I can.
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This was an amazing video. I really appreciated Brad’s advice… I’ll use some of it on my own marriage. Thank you
Glad I’ve been of help, somehow. If you haven’t already, please like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won’t miss any of my upcoming videos. I’d really appreciate it! 🙂
Quite often couples go straight to divorce when things are not going as they expected. Many couples can work through it but they have to be devoted to it even though it may not be easy. Thank you for sharing this very helpful video, I’m sure it will be of help to many!
Timothy Packard You’re welcome! I’m glad you find it helpful. Feel free to like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won’t miss any of my future videos. I’d really appreciate it! 🙂
Brad, my wife and I are on the brink of separation. At this point, we are both knit picking at any little thing we do and arguing about it. We cant get over the hurt we caused each other in the past. We have both fallen out of love and we are exhausted trying things to fix “us”. Please help. Thank you!
+cherreraIII Hey man! I think I’ve just answered your concern on the previous/the same video with you asking similar issues in those comments, so please refer to those.
This video has given me hope and if I have a chance to use these tips before my husband requests a divorce I know we will be happy moving forward. We were only married a little over a year and were going through a tough situation financially. I hope he sees I truly care and want to make things work. I already admitted my wrongdoings and contributions to the downfall of our marriage. He has taken a long, wide space from contact with me this past week and I am giving it to him so he can figure out who he truly is, what he wants, and if our marriage is worth it. Thanks
I’m glad to be of help somehow, thanks for letting me know! Anyway yes, financial problems can often plague a marriage. There’s a helpful article about it I suggest you read: http://www.lovelearnings.com/marriage/not-let-finances-ruin-marriage But if you need my help further on this, however, then we ought to take a look at a lot of various factors at play, so sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at http://www.marriageguy.com/coaching
I’m in the same situation now. I’m wondering how this turned out for you.
I’m in the same situation
How are things now?
Hey Brad, this video is what I needed to hear. I’ve made the mistakes you said to avoid and that stops now. My wife wants a divorce and I don’t. I’m trying to do all I can to save it, with us having kids we will have to continue to live together for at least 6 months. I’m really hoping I can turn this around.
Hi, Joel. Sorry to hear that. How long has it been since she has asked for a divorce? Moreover, when did all the trouble started and what has caused it? This may help: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WU0yhd3ADXU but it’s really a bit challenging for me to know where to give you a headstart, knowing only so little of the situation… Sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
Did it turn around?
Hey Brad, thank you for sharing this video. You have given me really a good idea of the mistakes I am repeating to save my marriage. But after 15 years of wedding I think my married life is going towards a bad end. Please help to save my wedding. My husband lost all the faith and love from me because he thinks I was having an affair with my manager.!! He read some texts few months before which were in open language. I admit the language was open from his side and I replied the same way couple of times. Since a month I am trying to give all justifications to my husband but he thinks that he never satisfied me that’s why I attracted to few people. I don’t know how do I make him believe that he is everything to me. We never had good bed room relationship. At this stage he ignores me, insults me on every occasion and I am not allowed to even touch him. I understand he is angry on me and I can see him suffering a lot as well but this gives negative impact on my 13 yrs old son..!! Please help and give me some ideas as I have extreme concerns about his health..!! He doesn’t want to talk to me at all.!! Please you are a little light of hope to me..!! Please help..!!
Hi Sheetal, sorry to hear that. Since he’s your husband, I supposed you’re still married to him and that you live under one roof? How is it that he’s not talking to you? If he thinks you’re cheating on him, then that does have an impact on things. These may help: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WU0yhd3ADXU and https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W_vzHFqnasM&t=7s but it’s really challenging for me to know where to give you a headstart, knowing only so little of the situation… Sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
My husband told me he’s through with everything. We have been together for quite a while. High school sweethearts sort of thing.
He told me he’s not willing to put up a fight anymore etc. we argue a lot and often over small small things.
This gave me so much hope in ways to help better myself and my marriage. Thank you so so much. Definitely sharing and subscribing.
Thank you so much! 🙂 Sorry to hear you’re going through this, though. Just leave him be and give him time to release the negativity — not necessarily the marriage. But anyways, when did all the trouble started and what has caused it? These may help: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WU0yhd3ADXU and https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W_vzHFqnasM&t=7s but it’s really challenging for me to know where to give you a headstart, knowing only so little of the situation… Sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at www.marriageguy.com/coaching Take care!
Thanks so much for your insight. I really need to hear this. I’ve been married in an Asian woman in her country now for 10 years and our marriage has gone from OK to a disaster. Again, thanks.
You’re welcome! Sorry to hear you’re going through this though. Ten years and there’s bound to be something substantial there. What happened? When did all the trouble started and what has caused it? These may help: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WU0yhd3ADXU and https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W_vzHFqnasM&t=7s but it’s really challenging for me to know where to give you a headstart, knowing only so little of the situation… Sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
Wished I had found this video sooo long ago, for it would’ve probably saved me so much headache. I’m currently separated, but hope it’s not too late to save my marriage. I’m going to follow all the advice here and see how it goes. I’ll be back with the results of my marriage in a few weeks. Thanks for your great video.
You’re welcome! And yes, I agree. I hope it’s not too late, too. Have you took the quiz yet? http://www.marriageguy.com/quiz
Everything you said, we’re doing and not doing. I can actually look at myself and say, “wow, it really is me too…” this has been a big help. Hope we can get it right. No matter what I’ll love my wife. Thank you for this.
You’re welcome, man! Hey, you never know who else can benefit, so if it’s not too much to ask and if you haven’t already, please like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won’t miss any of my upcoming videos. I’d really appreciate it! 🙂
Hi Brad. My husband has recently told me he was done with our marriage and I’m totally heartbroken. We have been together for 12 years and have always argued a lot as both of us are quite strong minded (especially me). About a year ago we planned to start trying for kids but a month or two later i had a work crisis and completely prioritised my job over him (which meant travelling and being away from him for weeks at a time over a 3 month period). I didnt realise what i was doing at the time but by the time I did i feel it was too late… He saw this as abandonment and a huge break of trust – even though I realise my mistake and have been trying to make up for it but feeling like I’m bending over backwards to reassure him our arguments have only gotten worse, and now he is holding onto a lot of anger and resentment and says he’s done and that he just cant keep fighting anymore. He has also said that he still loves me but just can’t see any way of making it work. I don’t want to lose him and am willing to do anything to save my marriage I just don’t know where to start or what to do… please help!!
Sorry to hear that. Both people being strong minded don’t necessarily mean it can’t work out. There could some other underlying issue you both need to address though. The process of saving one’s marriage is a bit complicated but this is why I’ve released a second book called Mend the Marriage. Check it out at http://www.marriageguy.com as everything is on there, from how to communicate more effectively, down to how to handle the kids (if applicable), monitor your progress through worksheets and stuff. These videos are for you, too: http://y2u.be/ij6__SVcMW8 and http://y2u.be/z262BzLvwAk or sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program at http://www.marriageguy.com/coaching Take care!
Just wanted to say thank YOU Brad for all your videos cause they have saved my marriage but WE both are still working on it today after 2yrs. Been married 8yrs & I have gotten her to watch your videos, I got questions about how do I get her to stop being jealous about my own family, she can be on her phone all day & I don’t say anything but as soon as I get on mine she gets mad, NOW she’s the one who left 3yrs ago & now I think she wonders if I’m gonna leave, she’s always following me & I can’t get any space & she thinks being apart is wrong when 2 people are married, plus sex is all she thinks about, what tips you have to help thanks MAN…
I’m glad I found this video. I am in the opposite situation. My husband and I have been together 23 years and have 3 kids. Oldest 21 youngest 12. Over the years I was getting feelings that he was loosing interest and just started not caring about me as much. Every so often we had fights because I was the one feeling hurt from his actions. I tried to sweep things under the rug and move on but that ended up backfiring on me because now I feel I am the one who suffered most. I am the one who wants out because after every argument I explained to him that a little piece of me died every time he hurt me. I even went so far as to change my lifestyle for one I was not 100% comfortable living (sex wise) to make him happy. I just announced I want out and he didn’t even try to fight for me. Just comes home from work and goes about his regular routine and goes to bed. I remember how we were so much in love and now he is so indifferent. I am the one who wants to leave but seems I am also the only one who wants to try to save our relationship. What should I do?
Choose a path and then go with it. If you want to divorce him, let him know. Otherwise, the process of saving one’s marriage is a bit complicated but this is why I’ve released a second book called Mend the Marriage. Check it out at http://www.marriageguy.com as everything is on there, from how to communicate more effectively, down to how to handle the kids (if applicable), monitor your progress through worksheets and stuff. These videos are for you, too: http://y2u.be/ij6__SVcMW8 and http://y2u.be/z262BzLvwAk or sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program at http://www.marriageguy.com/coaching Take care!
❤💖 It’s sad and can be frustrating for anyone who’s going through a marriage crisis. I believe that marriages can be saved if you put in the effort, unless it’s an abusive relationship, then that’s a totally different story. 🤞
I agree with you. Thanks for dropping by! 🙂
❤️ tip #1 & #2 analyze yourself, watch your behavior. Give yourself space. I make sure that I give my husband and myself space. We both need it sometimes. I enjoyed the video and the advice you gave. I just joined your community and clicked the notification bell. 🔔
Awesome! Thanks for joining and welcome to my channel! 🙂
Great video Brad.. I never quite knew what I got myself into when I got married and now I’m trying to find ways to save it because I think I was too complacent.
Been separated for 2 years, but I refuse to give up on my marriage, I pray we come out strong in there other side. This video is really helping with my wrongs.
damn I hope you guys get back
Your videos give me a tremendous amount of comfort that I can save my marriage! Our relationship started 6 years ago and we have only been married for a little over a year… But we have been fighting a lot and last weekend she told me she was done. Yesterday she told me that she wasn’t in love with me any more and it absolutely crushed me, I did my best to understand where she was coming from but it didn’t make it any less painful. I really want us to be one of the success stories but it’s so difficult to maintain a positive outlook, especially as I am staying with friends and family to give her space!
Any advice you can give me would be greatly appreciated
Brad, you do not understand how much this video has helped me keep my marriage. Every damn my fucking wife kept bitching and whining about how she wants a divorce. I looked up ways to stop her and stumbled across this video. After watching this video I followed everything you said and now she loves me again. Now I’m the one who wants a divorce 😂😂😂
This is awesome to hear. Congrats! 🙂 But if things get too rough for you, don’t go at it alone. Consider signing up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I would be in a better situation to help you out and help you resolve the issues once and for all at http://www.marriageguy.com/coaching
I have always enjoyed your session. What’s the best way to keep your marriage rejuvenated in times of fear of break up or feeling of something is going wrong to which you think you are darkness to?
We will be 10yrs in our marriage next year but we’ve stayed apart for 9yrs. We just got to live as husband and wife. But arguments have started which I don’t like . My wife feels I don’t love her.
What do you advise?